It was twenty years ago.
I was a manager of a department in a corporate office outside of Pittsburgh Pennsylvania.
I was about to kick off a two day meeting I was hosting for managers from across the country. I arrived early at the conference center in the hotel, to check the set up and equipment, and visualize my facilitation of the day.
I was tight; pre-meeting jitters.
An African-American housekeeping employee was doing some early morning cleaning of the area. Noticing I needed some help, he went out of his way to assist me with some last minute checks and adjustments.
I thanked him for his help, recognizing and applauding him for his clear commitment to serve.
I sensed that he was special. Even before he said his special goodbye.
On his way out, in response to my thanks, he simply said, “Just keepin’ the dream alive, Mr. Greco; just keepin’ the dream alive.”
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To this day I wonder what he meant.
I think it would be a stretch for me to say that he influenced my thinking that day. I don’t really remember, but I don’t think I thought about him at all over the two days, as I was immersed in the meeting with the managers.
But; it’s twenty-something years later, and I haven’t forgotten him.
Don’t you think that’s odd?
My only take-away is this: lasting impressions, it seems, can come from anyone, anywhere, at any time. People make impacts on other people out of all proportion to their power, or authority, or criticality of the interaction.
So treat people right, I guess. You may be remembered. You never know.
But how to explain the impression after twenty years?
I already said that I sensed he was special. How, or why, eludes me.
But maybe the lasting impression may in fact have had nothing whatsoever to do with him, and everything to do with me. Could it be that, in my particular state of mind that morning — tight; stressed — I was susceptible; impressionable?
That’s the best I can do. Quite clearly, I really don’t know what to make of this.
Perhaps you can? Feel free to weigh in if you have an angle.
All I have is a memory of someone I met in passing; someone who, in the space of minutes, in the role of servant in an unremarkable situation, made a lifelong impression.
I have the distinct memory of him saying goodbye. He said he was keepin’ the dream alive.
It’s just odd, don’t you think?
Odd? No, not a bit. Your only take-away is THE only take-away – anyone, anywhere, anytime. His comment struck a chord with you, and I am betting it connected with you emotionally. Neuroscience has done a lot of work in evaluating the impact of emotional connections. Leave it at that for now. In my opinion, it had NOTHING to do with you – until he said it, that is!
Tom, it absolutely connected emotionally … I need to carve out some time to dive into the neuroscience you mention!
Hi John,
Powerful expression of being open and caring about the day by responding to the individuals we meet. And being willing to help – good deeds done by people.
Jim
It is admittedly a very simple story, but the endurance of the memory kept me coming back to the idea that there’s something meaningful in that simple interaction … Thanks for extending the conversation!
It kind of makes you wonder what his dream was, doesn’t it? There’s a good chance he aspired to be where you were in your career instead of where he was in his, however due to whatever his circumstances were, helping you that day was as close as he was going to get. I’d be curious to know where his path took him after that day.
I love your blog…it always makes me reflect. Thanks!
~Heather
It does make me wonder what his dream was, Heather, absolutely! In an early draft I was going to explore that in the post, but it went another direction…
And, yes, you also hit on another wonder of mine; wondering how his life unfolded…
Glad you like the blog!
This might be a stretch John, all I can figure is that it would have been the 10th anniversary of MLK’s National Holiday. Perhaps, he was speaking about keeping MLK’s dream alive by people like him helping one in need regardless of their race?
Oooh, Tony, you might be right. The meeting might even have been in January, right around MLK’s birthday, giving more credence to your thought, but I just don’t remember that clearly.
And your interpretation resonates with me. And that would be a worthy dream to keep alive…
Maybe what was “special” about him, in that environment, was that he was… simple and positive. He was not at all about opportunity or success… just a nice guy. In the situation and state you were in that day… it was stark and refreshing. And so maybe, in some way… mysterious.
I used to walk past Town and Country imports on Madison Ave, in Oak Park on my way to Emerson grade school. There was a old guy that worked in the garage their… obviously not a mechanic… just the maintenance guy. For the longest time I even remembered his name, but that’s gone now. I think it was Tony. We only ever had the exact same exchange. I’d say “hi Tony” and he’d say “everything gonna be alright”.
Think about all the shit that goes on in your head in 7th or 8th grade. There was this old guy, who I knew nothing about, sweeping the floors in a garage… who always told me this. Simple, positive and friendly. Reliable. I remember thinking that it was odd that I’d even feel disappointed on the mornings he wasn’t there, or I’d missed him. I remember years later, driving by there and hoping to see him. Wondering how and what he’s doing.
I can still remember how he looked, and the garage… the types of cars and tools there. Next to hundreds of kids and teachers I spent every day with back then, I think of him more than nearly any of them.
I like to think… he was right.
Reading your comment has made me smile, again and again. I love the “everything gonna be alright” refrain … love it! … And the “simple, positive, friendly” …
Isn’t it amazing how seemingly innocuous events become enduring memories?
And, yes, you think good. He was right. He is right.
It is sharing stuff like this that layers on another reason why I love blogging!
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John, As you know ,I have been in Leadership for a very long time. We try to inspire and motivate our people to be the best they can be and leave lasting impressions on our customers. Many people come and go in our lives. Some we will never forget,others are distant memories and yet others we don’t remember at all. This man has left a lasting impression on you. You may have subconsiously used this quote or have inspired others in your own way because of this lasting memory. As leaders we can only hope and pray that we will leave lasting impressions that will inspire and motivate many people through there careers and through life as this man has inspired you. Keep posting your thoughts my friend.
Amen Jim! I don’t really know how my hotel helper’s enduring message has manifested in my work … and I’m right there with you on hoping that we as leaders do leave lasting impressions that inspire and motivate … boy that would be pretty wonderful wouldn’t it?
Very good to see you here and thanks for reflecting on the post!
In our busy lives we forget what is really important and that is the daily interactions with each other. This persons recognized that you needed help and made a conscious decision to act. No hidden agenda. No excuse why he should not help.
We have all become very distracted with our electronic gadgets and our demanding schedules. Unfortunately it’s becoming more rare to find someone willing to helps just because.
What you experienced was how powerful a random act of kindness could be no matter how small. What would the world look like if we all chose to treat each other as this worker treated you?
Keep the dream alive, one act, one person at a time. Powerful!
Powerful indeed, Mike … and memorable when we experience it!
Good blog post. I definitely appreciate this website.
Keep it up!
Wonderful to hear, thank you and best to you!